Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Do Fat People Dislike Themselves?

This question was proposed on a forum I frequent. Of course being an open forum, you'll have people who know NOTHING of the fat lifestyle chiming in, which is irritating to say the least. Who are you to answer for a fat person when you've never known what it's like to be fat?

For those who have been or are fat, most of the answers are as I said.

"I LOVE myself. I HATE my fat. My fat is NOT me."

Loving oneself and loving their body are two different things. I love me. I do not love my body. My body is not me.

Some people who do have experience with being even slightly overweight did say that they don't like themselves, but I do wonder if they confuse their dislike for their bodies for a dislike for themselves. After all, this can be easily confused.

Some may see a dislike for their body as a dislike for themselves. Simply put... They may see them as one in the same. But in truth, it is not the same.

I have no doubt that some people may ultimately end up disliking themselves due to their weight. I used to be one of those people. Some days I still am. Nothing like a day wallowing in self pity, right..?

But I think it's important for all people, ESPECIALLY those suffering from weight problems, whether overweight or underweight, to realize that you can love you without loving your body.


  1. Very well said. I needed to read this today. I too sometimes confuse being overweight & hating my body with hating myself when in truth, I love the person I am just not the body I'm in. It is a very fine line.



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